Wednesday, June 21, 2006

Where'd The Time Go?

I thought I was going to be able to continue Monday's post on Tuesday, but obviously that didn't happen. Probably won't happen until later tonight or tomorrow.

Check out Central Snark...some of the cool people are amassing there.

I am seriously considering switching to WP...if I do, ya'll will know.

Shayna has been asking her readers who she should interview next...

This cowgirl needs to finish getting ready for work, so I leave you with this question: Have any of you been able to go back to being friends after crossing "that" line?


Blogger brian said...

Morning Cowgirl,

I voted for you and Jake at Shayna's.;)

When we get a computer I am also going to switch to WP.

I've never been with anyone else, but if you have something to ask, drop me a line. See ya' in the park.

Love ya'

6:27 AM  
Blogger Jake said...

That all depends on what the definition of "is" is... I mean "that".

Seriously, yes, and I suspect that married folks are field experts.

7:44 AM  
Blogger Chris said...

I'll have to side with Jake and say yes it's possible. But I will add it's only possible if the line isn't crossed anymore. Friends with benefits never works. At least that's my perspective. Oh, and I'm not qualified one bit to give relationship advice :)

8:01 AM  
Blogger BarnGoddess said...


8:33 AM  
Blogger arizona69 said...

I have to say yes, but I'm not so sure.. Anyway, unfortunately, not a friendship like before.
"Friends with benefits": LOL :-) What a wonderful definition

10:42 AM  
Blogger Kyahgirl said...

If you want free advice on going to WP, let me know :-) I did it the bad way.

Never crossed the line if you're talking about sex with a friend. Maybe that's not what you're asking? Need more info!

1:15 PM  
Anonymous cooper said...

I personally like wordpress.I host my own site so I have more control over the template and plug-ins , there is more customization options and you can design your own template. Several of my friends use the instant wordpress and they seem happy with it and my Darfur site is that kind. I much prefer it to blogger as all my blogger formatting got messed up several times and someone actually did hack my blog twice.

I have little experience with even trying being that I'm only 21 but my very first "real boyfriend" of several years from high school and I are good friends now he actually comments in my blog. Other than that, which was high school, it is really does not usually work for the most part which is why at this point in time I have stayed out of a relationship of that kind with someone I consider my best friend at NYU and someone who would prefer nothing more than to cross that line. Knowing the likelihood of a relationship of that kind being sustainable at this point in my life is nil it would be a shame to destroy such a friendship and it is the friendship I couldn't do without.

4:29 PM  
Blogger Cowgirl said...

TO EVERYONE: yep, you all guessed what "line" I was talking about. And I crossed it. He is a good friend, but not one I talk to all the time...I usually seem him once a week.

But I talked to the guy, and everything seems cool...what sucks more is that he has only been broken up with his ex for two we shall see how this plays out...but I am SO not into the being the rebound girl.

Brian, it will be interesting if Shayna interviews cool! have? Good. Things are looking up.

Chris, two votes for being friends again? Fantastic.

Bet you are more qualified than you think.

Barngoddess, YAY! Someone female!

Arizona, no I am not into having "friends with benefits"...also know around here between me and my friends as "fuck buddies" ;)

Kyahgirl, I will be sure to get in touch with you about the WP.

Yeah, I crossed the line...but I think it will all be ok. *crosses fingers*

Cooper, I'll contact you about WP too.

And you know SO much, chica. Hell I am only 25. Age is irrelevant.

5:19 PM  
Anonymous shayna said...

See... I had a guy friend with benefits... and we always tried just going back to being friends without benefits... and then we always ended up friends with benefits over and over again... It was a never ending cycle... DAMN SEXUAL HOROMONES! I see him every now and then... but we now just say "hi" from a distance...

I see that Chris is making his rounds... seems he hasn't found his way over to my place... *I hang my head and tears come to my eyes*

5:39 PM  
Blogger The ZenFo Pro said...

Two words...

Fruitcake sex.

Complete agreement with Shayna.

7:01 PM  
Blogger avereragebusinessman said...

I'm usually not able to give advice on that kind if thing.

It rarely works in my opinion.

I had a few of those and they were hard on the mind and everything always seemed in a flux and stressful. Not uncommon at a certain age when you aren't certain you want a steady relationship but want friends and want sex.

Been there done that.
See I can give advice.

7:15 PM  
Blogger O Ceallaigh said...

I think you created at least a full dozen insanely jealous bloggers with that admission of yours. Most of whom are too courteous or circumspect to mention it. Me? All guns blazing. Especially at 1 AM. Don't ask.

I don't think it's possible to give firm advice on the "staying friends" issue. People are different, their responses are different. Arizona69 is right. But that happens anyway.

The "rebound" thing is a separate issue, though, and I'm prepared to be decisive here. DO NOT. Unless you are prepared to relive all the issues of the previous relationship. All the guidebooks say "allow at least six months" after leaving one heavy relationship before entering another. They're right. If the dude is truly a friend, you'll be able to tell him "go heal. When that's happened, we'll talk. Not before Christmas." He won't like it. He might go away thinking "Damn. I'll never have a girl again." He's gotta get over that before you can safely consider being "bed buddies" (or more) again. Unless you're prepared to accept sex and trouble. And that doesn't sound like you.

1:35 AM  
Blogger brian said...

Good Thursday morning CG,

Not much to add to above. Sigh. Have a great day, see you around. Love ya'

4:54 AM  
Blogger EsotericWombat said...

Well, whether or not I have an answer for you depends on where this line is drawn.

I really think it depends on the person though. In the case that I have in mind that may or may not constitute my having an answer for you I think that even if we had crossed the furthest "line" that one would suspect that you'd be speaking of I think we'd be able to go back

9:55 AM  
Blogger Doug said...

My advice? Break his sorry little heart.

10:39 AM  
Blogger Cowgirl said...

*bringing tissue* Shayna, friends with benefits is fine when that's what the plan is. Damn sexual hormones, I agree.

ZenFo Pro, I am so adding the phrase "fruitcake sex" to my vocabulary. - you give great advice. Thanks.

O'C - I have insanely jealous bloggers? *smiles*

I will heed your advice...not looking to be the rebound girl. Leaves a nasty taste.

Brian - HI!

Wombat, I think we would be able to go back too. ;)

Doug - break his heart? I dunno.

11:02 AM  
Blogger Miz BoheMia said...


Only happened with the Loverboy but were we to break up I am not wired to be just friends. I either get what I want or get out of my life... black and white is sometimes simplest and best with some things....

Now off I go to read the above post!


10:00 AM  
Blogger Pixie said...

Hmmmmmmm... interesting question. Damned good timing too! LOL.

Honestly, the only people I have ever crossed "that" line with were friends. I don't cross "that" line with just anyone.

*tapping crop on boot*

*wink wink*

miss you terribly - forgive my absence, puleeeeeeeeze????

11:57 PM  

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